Addiction is a lifestyle disease. Addiction is a disease that says that the addicts do not have a disease. Unlike other diseases such as cancer that may invoke a patient's survival instincts, addiction wants its victims dead. Addictive illnesses are progressive if they don't get help. This decline seems preventable. The addiction recovery process is a challenging proposition for the spouses, who often feel powerless when the partner uses substances despite all their efforts. Their emotional roller coaster continues in light of the persistent risk of relapse. Addiction disease poses significant stress and trauma on the family members, particularly the spouse. The spouse may switch between being a rescuer who tries to fix all the problems to a demoralised person who feels helpless and just wants some peace. Spouses often have a frustration built up after years of going through the same cycle with their addicted spouse. However, holding on to the negative feeling often prevents spouses from healing and moving forward in their life. It is prudent to avoid blame and accept that addiction is a disease. It is not a moral weakness or lack of willpower. The addicted spouse also feels a great deal of shame and helplessness to break the cycle of addiction. It is evident that the best outcome is derived from working with the addicts, praising them for their small achievements, and encouraging them to accept setbacks or slip-ups as opportunities to learn.
Drug and alcohol addiction often have devastating effects on relationships. It quickly breaks down trust and communication to the point of no return. In many instances where one spouse is struggling with addiction, the other spouse may unknowingly become an enabler by indirectly reinforcing addictive behaviour. It is essential to create a boundary between supportive and enabling behaviour. Generally, by keeping silent to the addicted partner's substance use behaviour, a spouse can send the wrong message that he or she approves the partner's drug dependency. Establishing strict boundaries sends a strong message to the addicted partners and helps them to reflect upon their behaviour and bounce back from rock bottom. It can be overwhelming to think about drawing boundaries and discussing with the partners how their drug use is hurting them. However, at times, this is the only way to break the cycle of co-dependency. The spouse of an addict doesn't have to wait for the person struggling with addiction to be ready- that day may never come. They can open the doorway to recovery and lead the way. It is like sending a strong message to their addicted partner that they are no longer partners in their disease; the addicted partner is left with the option of either accepting help or going down the spiral alone. A bond is formed from winning against the menace together. It is a strong and profound bond that empowers your family unit to beat future setbacks.
Some examples of Nasha Mitra Partners' services:
1. A family bank account in the name of the wife and a family membership card in the name of the wife.
2. Teamwork while considering addict's partner as a valuable member of he team
3. Listening actively to the partners and partnership with them throughout the process
4. Family dignity and self-dependence
5. Work and skill training for addict's partner if required. Helping the partners to use their existing skills such as sewing, teaching, typing, etc